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Beautiful!

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Thank you, Tracy. XO

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This line, Katrina: "I didn't need to mend any fences with my dad, because the fence had never been built."

Whoa.

That was fantastic.

The older I get, the more I am able to see how it's possible to be severely hurt yet carry no grudge or harbor no resentment towards a person. There's no point in expending energy on people who may or may not care. Thank you for reminding me to live in a space of resignation. ❤️

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It's been a long road for me. I carried a lot of anger for a long time, but I know I was only hurting myself. It's so freeing to let that anger go. XO

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I love the example you set in this story about that. I have a very difficult time letting go of past hurts.

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Oh, Jeannie, I do, too!! I’m the worst kind of grudge holder. But the older I get, the more I realize that it only damages me. I’m trying to be more gracious and forgiving in my life. It’s a constant journey, though. ❤️

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Same here. In midlife, I realized I just don't have the energy for resentment. But I get hurt so easily, because I'm highly sensitive, which makes it an ongoing battle.

I will qualify that by saying I get hurt easily by the people closest to me.

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Sometimes I can't even put words together to comment on your works-of-heart. This is one of them. I love you and every line of the remarkable story of you.

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I love you right back, my sweet friend. XO

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Katrina, such an emancipation proclamation this IS❣️SO deeply touched and my mom used to say she wasn’t sure my father should have ever been one. I’d remind her that I’m grateful he was or my sister, brother and I would not be here. Her face would soften with a ‘knowing.’ Gentle care as you continue to sift, sort and to share your BEing as you are. I’m listening and grateful to you and for you. 💙

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My mom was so very careful not to bad mouth my dad when we were little. It was such a great lesson in parenting. If it was ever salvageable, she wanted us to be able to have a relationship with him. Also, I’m glad your father was a father, too. ❤️

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What a rich and beautiful piece of writing!

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Thank you so much. ❤️

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