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Nan Tepper's avatar

This is gorgeous and honest and real. Thank you for revealing yourself to us. I’m amazed that you worked in an environment where John was transitioning to Jane and didn’t lose her job. 31 years ago. That’s pretty incredible. xo

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Dawn Pier's avatar

Nan, that's where I thought the story was going too! Amazing.

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Kathy Pollock's avatar

Thank you!! We all have to do better!

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Clare Egan's avatar

Here's to Jane 🏳️‍🌈

Thanks for sharing this beautiful piece, Katrina. It was a pleasure to read!

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Beautifully written, simply amazing that hard road with trodden that many years ago. True we can only do what we know and you are doing wonderful things right now. Thank you. 🌹

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Savannah (she/her)'s avatar

Thank you for sharing this, and thank you for your courage and your voice now.

For many of us who discovered who we are later in life, I'm sure there are almost always moments to which we mentally return time and again, wishing we could have known better, could have done better.

But to be brave and compassionate and thoughtful in the present is all we are given, and I suppose that must be enough.

Sending my best wishes for a better world - for you, for me, and for Jane. 💛

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Annette Marquis's avatar

Thank you for your honesty. We can’t do what we don’t know. But now that you know, you can write things like this that will open people’s hearts. You needed to be there to get here.

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Julia Park Tracey's avatar

When I look back at my younger self, I just Shudder and cringe at my insecure cruelty. Just reaching out would’ve been the kind thing. And I didn’t have it in me. But we learn, don’t we thank God.

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Joanie Madsen's avatar

YES! 🙌🏼 To every word, thought, and big feeling. Such an honest reckoning of where you were, and are today. If we could all remember to do this as a daily spiritual practice, can you imagine our world? I wonder what life looks and feels like for Jane today? Loving care to your huge heart, Katrina, and those you touch. 💜✨

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Katrina Anne Willis's avatar

I would love to know Jane now, too. <3

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Leslie Ann's avatar

🏳️‍🌈 🩵

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